It’s Therapeutic
It’s Therapeutic is a podcast about real power, where health, vitality, success, and spirituality collide, and nothing is too taboo to examine.
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Its Therapeutic explores health through the lens of power. True power requires vitality, resilience, and enthusiasm—not just physical health. We go beyond the standard Western model to examine mental, emotional, financial, social, and moral health. In a safe, candid space, we tackle the taboo—from sex, drugs, and rock and roll to the intersection of science, success, and spirituality.
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It’s Therapeutic is a bold podcast about health, power, and what we’re usually not allowed to talk about.
True power requires more than physical health—it demands vitality, resilience, enthusiasm, and integrity across every dimension of life. While the Western medical model often stops at the body, one of its most rigorous disciplines—transplant medicine—quietly acknowledges the truth: physical, mental, emotional, financial, social, and moral health are inseparable.
From that extreme edge of Western medicine, It’s Therapeutic opens a doorway into the next frontier of holistic health.
This podcast creates a safe, intelligent, and unapologetically honest space to explore the most stigmatized aspects of wellbeing—from sex, drugs, and rock and roll to a newer, equally taboo triad: science, success, and spirituality.
If health is power, It’s Therapeutic is where we learn how to reclaim both.
It’s Therapeutic
Offer Guidance So It Sticks
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Ever feel like your best intended effort at giving someone advice or constructive criticism is met with defensive insecurity and a hostile response to mind your own business? I can definitely also relate.
What if the problem isn’t what we’re saying… but how we’re handing it over?
We intuitively give advice blade first. Sharp, abrupt, and even a little scary to receive. This sadly defeats the purpose and drives a wedge instead of intimacy.
And then we wonder why people get defensive!
There’s a better way: handle first. We can give the exact same “spicy” truth: Direct, honest, even uncomfortable, without being hostile, aggressive, cold, or intimidating.
In fact, when people feel that we’re on their side, your criticism doesn’t just land…it sticks.
⏱️ 10-Minute Timeline
1: If you have advice to give, make it stick
- It’s not about softening the truth. It’s about packaging it so it can be used.”
- Same message, different delivery → completely different outcome
2: Why Harsh Criticism Fails
- When criticism is aggressive: Engagement is driven by fear, not trust. People comply short-term, resist and rebel long-term
- Calling it out:
- Abuse of authority is common across fields (medicine, law, finance, military, etc.)
- “If fear is the only glue, the relationship is already cracking, unstable, fragmented, and lacking integrity.”
3/4: My Anesthesiology Experience
- Training residents, giving autonomy
- Allowing safe mistakes + course correction
- Old model: overreaction, power flexing
- Our model: calm correction + support
- Personal reflection:
- “I remember being in their shoes, and being turned off by unnecessary intensity.”
- Key line:
- “I don’t withdraw care support when I correct others. I increase it.”
5/6/7: What Makes Criticism Work
- 3 ingredients:
- They know you’re on their side
- The feedback is actually correct
- You’re not protecting feelings at the cost of truth
- Important nuance:
- Medicine selects for people who can take feedback, but not infinitely
- Tone + timing + body language matter
7/8: Parenting Application
- Transition: “This matters even more at home.”
- Discuss:
- Kids need boundaries, not just love
- Avoiding correction = long-term harm
- Strong point:
- “A parent who can’t correct is outsourcing discipline to the world.” Beware of codependent parenting.
- Mention your spouse:
- Comfortable giving loving but firm correction
- Key insight:
- “Lack of boundaries today becomes resentment tomorrow.”
9/10: Practical Reframe
- Give simple actionable shift:
- Before speaking, ask:
→ “Am I handing this handle first?”
- Before speaking, ask:
- Reframe advice as:
- An offering, not an imposition
- Core idea:
- “You’re not lowering the impact, but increasing the usability.”
In closing
- Recall the metaphor:
- “The same knife can heal or harm, depending on how you hand it over.”
- Final line:
- “If people can’t handle your advice… it might be because you didn’t offer it to them by the handle.”
- This is an example of how faith and patience is a worthwhile investment, whereas impatience and grumpiness is a costly indulgence.